The Art of Being a Good Listener

Posted on December 14, 2011


To maintain healthy relationships and to overall be a likeable person, it is recommended that you become a good listener if you aren’t already.  This is vital in personal settings, but even more important in the workforce.  Although sometimes it can be exhausting to be the “listener”, it can actually be beneficial overall.  Take a minute to reflect on yourself and your social situations.  Are you considered “the talker” who dominates most conversations or do you hardly get a word in because you’re too busy listening?

Sometimes it can be frustrating if you are always the listener, but it can actually be a valuable tool if used properly.  You can learn a lot from your surroundings, establish more time to evaluate your opinions, and you can have a better relationship with the person you are speaking with.  Listening is an effective way for people to open up and trust you, which will give them incentive to build a relationship with you.

Below, we have provided a few tips that can help you become a better listener.

Express genuine interest in what the other person is saying – even if the conversation is dull or is something outside of your interest, you should never show the person on the other side.  Naturally, people like to talk about themselves so taking the time to  listen to them will help draw you in.

-Ask questions – by engaging in the conversation, it will show your interest and that you care about what they are saying.

Don’t let your mind wander while in a conversation –  if you are only half listening to someone, they might notice this later on, which can make them loose credibility for you.

Don’t finish their sentence – sometimes people drag out stories and often times you want to speed it up by finishing their thought.  Don’t do this!  It shows disrespect and will appear that you are uninterested.

If you are having trouble being “the listener”, think of what you like about people who listen to you.  Why do you talk to that person?  How does he/she respond?  Spend less time talking and more time observing how others react in conversations and see if it is beneficial for you!





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